In the wake of abortion bans, women are braving the subject in front of everyone
Tori Owen’s admitted it: she once judged women who had abortions.
Now that she’s a mother, she realized she was jealous that so many women around her got pregnant when she struggled to.
“I used to be AGAINST abortions,” she wrote on her Instagram page, The Urban Mom. “I was so judgemental and ignorant.”
She went on to disclose that watching women around her get pregnant and abort made her feel unworthy of carrying.
Now mom to an adorable toddler, Owens has grown from her envy. She feels laws should not dictate what a woman should do with her body.
In the recent stretch of the South’s anti-abortion laws, women and mothers like Owens are speaking up. They are sharing their abortion stories and perspectives, appalled that they have to. Southern states such as Georgia and Mississippi passed abortion bans. Georgia’s six-week ban, known as the heartbeat bill, won’t go into effect until January.
On Tuesday, Alabama passed the country’s most restrictive abortion ban, which would prohibit abortions at any stage of pregnancy unless the mother’s mental or physical health is at stake.
Here’s how black women are using their voice in the fight:
“It’s OK to be pregnant and know that now is not a good time. As women, we don’t hear this enough, often enough, we’re not granted the leniency men are when it comes to being a parent. But as a woman who has done both, I’ve chosen to wait and not go through with a pregnancy while in a long-term committed relationship and I’ve also been pregnant and journeyed into motherhood knowing I would be a single mother. The reasons are your own.”
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In light of what’s happening in the South I think it’s incredibly important for women to speak up 🗣 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ Ladies, It’s okay to wait, it’s perfectly okay to not be sure you’re ready for the commitment and journey that is motherhood. It’s okay to be pregnant and know that now Is not a good time. It’s absolutely okay! As women we don’t hear this enough, often enough we’re not granted the kind of leniency men are when it comes to being a parent. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ But as a woman who has done both, I’ve chosen to wait and not go through with a pregnancy while in a long term committed relationship and I’ve also been pregnant and journeyed into parenthood knowing that I would be a single mother. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ The reasons are our own, the justifications are ones only we need to be okay with and when you lay your head down at night it’s only you that needs to be okay with what you choose to do. So again to the women who need to hear this know that it’s okay to wait, know that it’s okay to not be ready, know that it’s okay to say this isn’t what I want and also know that it’s okay to say yes to motherhood even if it doesn’t include all the things society says it should. 📸 @lizsalzman . ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ . ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ . ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ⠀ . . . #singlemom #love #momlife #bossbabe #workingmom #motherhood #BlackGirlsWhoBlog #singlemomlife #parenting #girlboss #singlemother #mommiesandbabes #motherhoodinspired #momblogger #babygirl #motherhoodunplugged #babystyle #torontoblogger #momboss #strongwomen #motherhoodrising #prochoice #honestmotherhood #motherhoodintheraw
“Now that I’m a mother, I wouldn’t dare have the audacity to dictate what another woman does with her body. Having a child is a lot of work. If a woman feels like she’s not ready, then dammit LET HER LIVE! 🗣IT’S NONE OF OUR BUSINESS!
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I used to be AGAINST abortions. I was so judgmental and ignorant. Here’s why… . I used to see all the girls around me getting pregnant , having abortions, not taking care of their kids and truth is…I was so jealous. I mean here I am , struggling and yearning to have one of my own for years and girls around me would get pregnant so easily. . That aided my envy. I always knew it was something wrong with me. However back then, I watched those girls go through it and it made me feel like I wasn’t worthy enough to carry. . Now that I’m a mother, I wouldn’t dare have the audacity to dictate what another woman does with her body. Having a child is a lot of work. If a woman feels like she isn’t ready , then damnit LET HER LIVE! 🗣ITS NONE OF OUR BUSINESS! . And don’t come to me with that “well she should’ve used protection” shit. We teach our kids that mistakes are ok but then we shun adults for being human as well. . I could write pages about this topic , but truth is I’m too damn mad about it to do so. . Bottom line, MIND YOUR BUSINESS! How tf can we say abortion is illegal but PROSTITUTION and CANCER STICKS ARE LEGAL? Are you freakin kidding me ? . This is just a part of the new world order happening right before our eyes. Watch how many self inflicted deaths and abandoned babies start happening. Watch how many women will be pressured to use birth control. Hmmm, another BIG PHARMA agenda 🤔 . I gotta log out. DIZ TEW MUCH ✌🏾 . #urbanmomspot